I’m linking to this piece, which I suggest you be careful about before you read. It’s very disturbing. I’m disturbed having read it. I possibly should have stopped, since I didn’t need to be convinced of the brutality and dehumanizing nature of prostitution.
But since so many media outlets seem happy to re-print the happy-go-lucky, “men just want to be held” version of prostitution, I’m going to link to this anyway. It is my tiny protest of the skewed nature of the debate.
And it’s a wake-up call in a bigger sense. Many people have views on prostitution–it’s wrong, but ought not be made criminal–seems to be a standard one. I can discuss that. In fact, I have time for it. There are a range of legitimate views on the extreme version of sexual deviancy found in prostituting oneself or in purchasing sex. But we all need to look inward at our own lives and the ways in which we are guilty. Looking at porn, having sex with a person you have no intentions of committing to, and possibly never did, the delusion that sex is purely physical and nothing more… all of these attitudes need to be reconsidered.
Last week I read about an educator, a public school high school educator who was on a committee to discipline other teachers (!) who wrote a soft porn book. He defends his right to do so. And never forget the high level educator, friends with Ontario’s current premier, who was charged with creating child porn. I’m guessing these guys are “sex positive” to use the parlance of the day. Who knows what will happen to them; I do know the mean girls in the twitter verse will accuse me of being a pearl-wearing prude.
Bring it on; I can take it. We need to change and I will not be shamed into silence on what is important for the sake of little people growing up who have a chance at living differently.by