This post pretty much sums it up for me. I’ve long thought that comparison to others is the kiss of death for your own confidence, and she rightly points out that Facebook facilitates comparison:
I was comparing my life to hers and as they say, comparison is the thief of joy. Like I once heard an Olympic swimmer say: “I swim best when I mentally stay in my own lane.” No matter how satisfied I am with my stroke and my pace before I log on, Facebook shoves me right out of my own lane and back into the ridiculous hunch that I’m not good enough, that I’m missing something important, that I don’t have enough peace and success and that everyone else is living a more fulfilling, fabulous life than I am. If Facebook has this effect on us, we can forgive ourselves. Because all we’re doing is using it exactly the way it was intended to be used. Facebook was designed by college boys to decide how “hot” one woman was compared to another, and now we use it to decide how hot one woman’s life is compared to another’s.
Social media is neither good nor bad, but it is something to be managed and it has changed the way we interact personally with others, largely for the worse, I’d wager. Now I, like the author here, have got to go and get this post up on Twitter. Sigh.
Faye adds: Don’t be sad, girl. #happyface #girlpower #iheartsocialmedia #youreawesomeandweknowit
Andrea adds: Thanks for the encouragement, Faye. #wordsfailby