I agree, and this is information young women must hear. Makes me sad. These words, so neatly typed on the page, spell the personal unhappiness of so many.
However on this:
That is not what girls want. For girls, sex without affection is hollow and eventually degrading. (To understand the soul-deadening effects of male-female relations without moral constraints, watch the unutterably sad TV series Girls.) Elevated rates of cutting, burning, binge drinking and anorexia amongst girls — not boys — suggest that today’s cultural trends are harmful to girls.
I would nuance it, a bit. I understand she was speaking to an audience of girls. But trends toward casual sex and a lack of commitment have led boys down a thorny garden path too, filled with porn, prostitution, poor habits, lack of motivation, laziness and general immaturity.
So while we tend to (and I tend to, simply because I am a woman) focus on the negatives for girls, there are negatives for boys, too. Of course, this makes sense, and I doubt very much that Barbara Kay would disagree–it just wasn’t her focus for this short piece.by