A long piece on sex-ed and this newish “philosophy of inclusive, non-threatening, pleasure-focused sex education” that’s apparently now making its way into high schools.
Where to begin?
I’m glad the kids are interested to know more about what makes for good sex and happy, healthy relationships. I’m sure they’ve had it up to there with the “how to put on a condom properly” tutorial (sort of like having to watch An Inconvenient Truth over and over again, I suppose – it gets tedious pretty fast). But there is a big giant BUT. Two, actually. One, no matter how fun you think it is to fool around with a “plush pink vulva puppet” in a high-school class, the secret to good sex isn’t technical. It’s something that comes with the kind of commitment very few teenagers are ready to make, and you’re not doing them any favours trying to make them believe otherwise. Plus they’ll find out the truth on their own eventually (I did) and realize then that they’d been lied to all this time (ditto). And two, please people, do not leave this crucial topic for sex-shop owners to deal with for you. Talking to your kids about healthy relationships (yes, including the sex part) is your job. If you don’t do it, somebody else will, whether you like it or not. So get to it.by