This item from yesterday’s National Post asks if bullied children should be able to fight back.
Thankfully, none of my children have ever been the victim of bullying. But from I can understand of it, it is (a) a learned behavior; and (b) a spectator sport. In these circumstances, I understand how difficult it can be for schools to eradicate bullying when the bully’s behavior is reinforced both at home and in the schoolyard by silent bystanders. But if a school is not solving the problem and providing a safe environment for all children, can it then blame parents for taking the matter into their own hands?
It’s funny though that when speaking about kickboxing and martial arts, the school boards association’s risk manager would say: “The kid is going into those courses for all the wrong reasons.” Isn’t learning to fight and defend yourself one of the basic reason to take martial arts, and improved self-esteem, physical fitness and coordination welcomed collateral effects? Has our society gone so mushy that learning to defend yourself is now a big no-no?
Brigitte nods emphatically: Yes, and yes! Getting into martial arts so you can learn to beat people up is wrong. No, gratuitous violence is not good. But learning to defend yourself, and using those skills when forced to, even if it means kicking the snot out of a tenacious bully? You betcha.
Andrea adds: I got into martial arts because I was scared of Brigitte.by