Sometimes people take the time to send me articles. And sometimes it’s clear why. Other times, I wonder. Like with this one:
Does this sound like you? When there is a situation in life that you have no control over, you go shopping. You spend money on something you want but don’t really need, which acts as a gateway to alleviating stress. The moment you hand over your cash or credit card in exchange for a shopping bag, you instantly feel a rush of happiness and gloating pride.
Um, no, this doesn’t sound like me, actually.
I suffer from something different. A kind of Scottish Frugality combined with what I call “Polish Wartime Mentality.” We’ll call it SFPWM. What this means is that I privately agonize over every purchase, making sure there’s a very clear return policy before I plunk my card down. I’ll never forget the first time my share of a dinner came to 80 dollars, yes, 80 dollars!! The shock of which not even the many bottles of wine we consumed managed to dull (And who chose those bottles, and how much were they? I ask you, because I can tell you this–it wasn’t me.) I told my mother how terrible I felt and she asked–but did you have fun?
I think it’s bad when your own mother is more concerned for how much fun you had over costs. And so, I am sure there’s a syndrome here for psychologists to examine. Sign me up! I’ll be the first volunteer for the “what to do with young people who act like their grandparents without any justification” study.by