I need help. I really don’t know what to think of this story. Part of me says it’s creepy, part of me says it’s sweet. Either way, I feel very sorry for this poor woman (and the countless ones in her situation).
A California man has signed papers to symbolically “adopt” and give his last name to his wife’s two aborted fetuses.
Stan Musil said he filed the posthumous “adoption” on Monday as a way to support his wife, Lisa, and help her heal from the pain of having those abortions, Lisa Musil told FOXNews.com.
Andrea’s gut reaction: It’s weird, but what he is essentially saying to her is I accept you and your past. She is obviously still very much struggling with herself. In that sense, I don’t have a problem with it. That said, this information is not news; it belongs in a counsellor’s office.
Rebecca adds: It’s creepy because it’s, well, a bit ghoulish – and I’d feel the same way about, say, getting a dead adult you were close to in life to “symbolically adopt” you. It’s sweet because this guy is willing to do something weird to bring his wife some peace. And it’s a wonderful story in that it makes it clear that abortion causes suffering and anguish for women, and it also makes it clear that these were babies that were aborted – nobody grieves over (to pick at random) a surgically removed kidney, much less asks her husband to symbolically adopt a destroyed kidney. The legions of counsellors telling women that most women just feel relief after an abortion – what would they say to Lisa Musil? How do they explain that? Are they willing to concede, in this case at least, that her two abortions ended two lives and caused profound suffering in another?
Tanya adds: I think the motivation behind this act is what could potentially render it creepy or anything else. In this case, however, I’m really touched by the couple’s actions. In giving the children a full name, these are clearly being recognized as people. The symbolic act of adoption by her husband is the closest these 4 people will ever be to a close family. It’s not like the man can say, “hey, let’s have your boys over for a barbecue.” He’s accepting his wife’ past. He’s recognizing that she loves the children she aborted, and misses them. He’s loving and missing them along with her. He’s symbolically taking on the role he would have, were they still alive today.