Hey, Véronique and Patricia, have you tried this?
In the consensual living model, father doesn’t know best. Neither does mom. Instead, parents and children are equal partners in family life, according to the principles laid out at consensual-living.com.
Consensual living 101
Everyone’s wants and needs are equally valid, regardless of age.
Children can be trusted to know their own minds and bodies.
Punishments and rewards are tools of manipulation, unneeded when family members work as a team.
There is a creative solution that works for everyone.
Each family member has a positive intent and desires harmony.
When all are secure that their needs will be met, they will branch out and help others meet their needs.
I’m no fan of draconian and inflexible discipline. But come on. If families had to live with the ‘equally valid’ wants and needs of every two-year-old, methinks they wouldn’t get anything done at all. Thoughts?
Andrea adds: My completely adorable little niece sometimes responds with a very strong “I know” as if to put you in your place. My sister and I were laughing over this one day–and concluded that actually, there are some things she doesn’t know–like the other 23 letters of the alphabet, for starters…
Rebecca says: I hope I’m never trapped on a trans-Atlantic flight beside this kind of family.
Patricia adds: I was going to blog on this yesterday, but I was too busy validating the needs and wants of my five children simultaneously. Sadly, the end result was my being sedated by the local SWAT team.
Would say more but have to go explain to my youngest why she can’t spend all day, every day watching an endless loop of “The Lonely Goatherd” from our Sound of Music DVD. Or maybe she can, as that particular desire of hers is apparently as valid as my desire, some might even say, need, to go out and get some groceries.
And I think that’s enough said about that particular style of parenting.
Andrea doesn’t mean to question Patricia’s parenting but what is so wrong with watching part–or all–of the Sound of Music on repeat? What could be wrong with wanting to be a nun, so that you can get kicked out of the abbey, and end up governess for a very handsome sea captain’s children? After a critical moment of harrowing indecision, you leave the captain to go into seclusion, back at the abbey, to ponder your options. Meanwhile, the captain’s girlfriend decides to pack her little bags and go back to Vienna, where she belongs, thereby allowing you to return and face the problem of your illicit relationship with said very handsome captain. No, I’d say there’s nothing wrong with watching too much Sound of Music. Didn’t do me any harm, anyways, says the 32-year-old single gal in the crowd.by